It's time to shatter the myth of the perfect pet.

Let’s rip off the band-aid. The pet world has a taboo topic—reactivity. While well-meaning, many brands, influencers, and publications are selling you a fairy tale. Pictures of perfect pets living harmoniously in their human-centric worlds dominate the narrative.

But here’s the unglamorous truth: these narratives can do more harm than good. They unintentionally push an unrealistic standard that all pets are composed and adaptable to a chaotic human environment.

The loud noises of traffic, the dense crowds, and the hectic pace of urban living are not just a fact of life in the concrete jungle; they are genuine stressors for many pets. What's a mild annoyance to us can be a terrifying ordeal for them.

A recent Figo study reveals a startling statistic: 3 in 4 pet parents report their dogs exhibit reactivity, often due to anxiety or fear. That's a full 75% of pet parents, making it the norm! This growing issue highlights the urgent need for better communication and understanding in our interactions with dogs, especially in bustling urban settings or crowded public spaces.

And by constantly showcasing only the most serene pet lifestyles and jovial pups, we’re not just setting pet parents up for failure, we're setting unrealistic expectations for pets, too.

Our dogs and cats are still animals, forced to adapt to human norms that often disregard their natural behaviors and needs. And it’s time we bring the full spectrum of pet parenthood into the light—not just the curated highlights.

By presenting a more realistic view of life pets, we encourage a dialogue that destigmatizes reactivity, anxiety, and imperfection. The first step? Expanding resources, increasing educational efforts, and bringing awareness to simple, effective tools that make pet parent life a little easier.

There’s a trend picking up steam among savvy pet parents—colored bandanas. These aren’t just for turning heads at the park; they're a practical solution for managing pet anxiety and reactivity. Gaining popularity in knowledgeable pet circles, these colorful scarves act as non-verbal cues to others, signaling a need for space or caution.

But here’s the catch: for these bandanas to truly work their magic, we all need a better understanding of what those bright red and yellow hues are trying to tell us. Let’s dive into what these fashionable yet functional accessories really mean.

Seeing red = space needed

Ever see a dog with a red bandana and wonder what it means? Well, it’s basically a polite way for the dog to say, “Please, give me some room.”

Whether they’re recovering from surgery, in the middle of some intense training, or just dealing with general anxiety or reactivity, that red bandana is a heads-up to keep your distance. It’s a simple, visual way to cut down on stressful situations, helping the dog stay calm and comfy, even in public spots or new places.

When it comes to approaching a dog in red, the general rule is: don't. This is not the time for petting or playful interaction. Just like some people need their personal space, these pups do too.

So, admire their style from afar, and move on to greeting dogs who are ready and eager for your attention.

Yellow scarf? Patience, please

Spot a dog sporting a yellow bandana? That's their way of saying, "Let's take things slow." It's not that they're necessarily a bite risk; they just have their own way of interacting, especially if they're still getting the hang of socializing or tend to get a bit unpredictable under stress.

Think of the yellow bandana as a gentle request for patience and understanding. It lets the dog engage at their own speed, which really helps smooth things out and avoid any mix-ups or tense moments. It's always a good idea to chat with their owner first before you try to make friends.

Avoid staring directly into their eyes or facing them head-on, as that can be a bit intimidating for them. Instead, stand sideways and let them come to you if they feel like it. You can let them sniff you but hold off on petting unless their owner says it’s okay—they set the pace and decide what feels right.

And remember, just because they’re adorable doesn’t mean they’re up for cuddles. Not every pup is looking for a belly rub, no matter how tempting it might be. There are plenty of other dogs out there who’d love your attention, so if you’re unsure, it’s best to give the yellow-banded pooch their space.

Why isn’t everyone talking about these bandanas?

Even though these bandanas are super helpful for letting us know what a dog needs, not enough people are clued in yet. It’s a bummer, because while everyone loves a stylish pet accessory, the real deal about these colorful bandanas often gets lost in the shuffle of all those just-for-show pieces.

If more of us understood what these colors actually mean, we could all have way smoother and friendlier interactions at the park. It’s all about making the dog-walking world a better place for everyone—dogs and humans alike. So, let’s spread the word and help everyone learn the language of bandanas!

Pushing for a more realistic narrative in pet care

Let's get real about what it means to be a pet parent. It's time to toss aside the rose-colored glasses and embrace the full spectrum of experiences. Not all dogs and cats fit the calm, cuddly mold often showcased by brands and influencers. Some deal with reactivity, anxiety, or just need a little extra space—challenges that are part of their everyday lives.

We need to push brands, influencers, and the pet care industry at large to recognize and represent all pets, not just the idealized versions. By advocating for products that address real-world needs, like these clever colored bandanas, we increase awareness and provide tools that make navigating public spaces easier and safer for everyone.

The more we demand that all pets are seen and respected, just as they are, the more tools and resources will become available to support them. This isn’t just good for the pets; it enriches our communities and makes our shared spaces more welcoming for everyone involved.

Stop glamorizing. Start empathizing. Let’s change the narrative and truly cater to our pets' needs in this human-centric world. Because acknowledging the problem is the first step to solving it. When we know better, we do better.

All about dog bandanas: Answering your top questions

Where can I buy red and yellow bandanas for my dog?

Local pet stores and online platforms are your go-to spots. Choose vendors that emphasize safety and functionality in their products. Here are two examples that you can shop for on Amazon below:

Are there other colors used for similar purposes?

Yes, green indicates friendly dogs open to interaction, while blue often denotes dogs in training or performing services, and white can be used to identify a deaf and / or blind dog. When in doubt, ask the pet parent!

How should I introduce my dog to wearing a bandana?

While some dogs may accept a bandana with no fuss, others may be more wary. Begin by letting your dog explore the bandana, associating it with positive experiences like treats. Gradually introduce it during short, enjoyable activities.

How can I educate others about the meaning of these bandanas?

Use social media, blog posts (like this one), or direct communication in dog-friendly areas to spread knowledge and advocate for these helpful tools.

Are there training methods to help reduce my dog's reactivity?

Engage with a professional trainer who uses positive reinforcement and tailored strategies to address your dog's specific needs. We have some tips and tricks on managing life with a reactive pet here.

What should I do if I see a dog with a red or yellow bandana while walking my own dog?

Keep a respectful distance, allowing the dog and its parent to navigate the space comfortably without interference. You may wish to cross the street to ensure ample space is given and reduce the chance of any conflict or stress.

Can these bandanas be used in conjunction with other training tools, like harnesses or leashes?

Absolutely, combining these tools can enhance communication and safety during training and daily walks.

Is there an official organization that regulates or recommends the use of these bandanas?

No official body exists, but these color codes are widely recognized and supported within the pet community.

How can I tell if a dog is wearing a bandana for fashion or for signaling purposes?

Assess the context and the dog's behavior, and when in doubt, always err on the side of caution and respect the potential message being communicated or ask their parent for more details.

What are some other ways to communicate my dog's needs in public settings?

Consider vests with clear messages, leash badges, or custom tags to convey your dog's preferences and needs. A well-fitted muzzle can also go a long way to communicate reactivity and a need for space, particularly if your dog may be a bite risk when fearful.

Lizz Caputo is the Manager of Content Strategy at Figo, animal enthusiast, and owner of a rescued senior American Bully. Her hobbies include checking out new restaurants in her area, boxing, and petting dogs of all shapes and sizes.