Newlywed? Seamlessly Blend Your Pet into Married Life

Wedding bells have rung, and you've officially tied the knot—congratulations! But as you merge silverware and sort through wedding gifts, there's another integration that needs attention: blending your pet into this new chapter of married life.

Here’s how you, a newly minted spouse and devoted pet parent, can ensure your dog or cat thrives during this transition.

Hearts, homes, hounds

Sure, a significant majority of couples, specifically 64% of women and 15% of all adults aged 18 to 34, have cohabited before marriage. While many may share a living space before tying the knot, others choose to merge households only after their marriage is legally recognized.

No matter your pre-marriage living arrangement, stepping into married life often ushers in a new living environment amidst the celebratory wedding bells. This transition is thrilling, yet introducing a pet into the mix can add a layer of complexity.

Let Figo guide you through the initial rough patches of pet-inclusive newlywed life, ensuring your home is primed for more cuddles than chaos. Wondering how newly married life with pets will shake out? We're answering some of the most commonly asked questions and giving essential tips to help foster newlywed bliss in a pet-friendly home.

1. What are some best practices for merging two households with pets?

• Routine amid chaos: The whirlwind of wedding activities and changes in your living situation (if any) can disorient your furry friend. Cats, as creatures of habit, are particularly sensitive to changes in their environment. Senior dogs may find themselves disoriented by sudden change as well. Keep feeding, playtime, and cuddling sessions consistent to reassure them that not everything is upending.

• Safe spaces = must have: As you shuffle furniture and maybe even move to a new home, ensure your pet has a safe, quiet place where they can retreat when overwhelmed. This spot should be equipped with their favorite bed, toys, and comfort items—all the creature comforts they need to feel safe and secure. If blending a multi-pet household, consider defining separate spaces for each pet until they're fully integrated. Baby gates and crates can help give each animal a separate chill pad of their own.

• Make introductions: If your pet hasn’t spent much time with your spouse or perhaps new roommates, gradually introduce them through controlled, positive interactions. Use treats and favorite activities to create associations of friendship and trust. If several pets are in the newlywed picture, you may even need to hire a trainer to help mitigate any conflict during the transition period.

• Unified pet parenting: Sit down with your spouse to align your pet parenting styles if you haven't done so already. Discuss how you'll handle feeding, discipline, playtime, and vet visits. Consistency between parents is key to preventing confusion and ensuring your pet knows what to expect from both of you. When you work together as a team, it can help bring you closer as well!

• Health checks: Post-wedding life can be chaotic, but don't let your pet's health checks slide. Keep up with regular vet appointments and stay vigilant about their health needs. Opt for the highest standard of care—whether regular exams or diet management. Settle for nothing less than the best.

• Couple activities that include pets: Find activities you can enjoy together with your pet. Whether it’s quiet evenings watching movies, with your cat curled up on the couch, or visiting pet-friendly spots around town, make sure your pet feels part of the family outings. Two or more animals in the mix? Spend 1:1 time with each to keep jealousy at bay and remind them that they're your priority. We don't play favorites, but your pet doesn't have to know that!

• Patience is paramount: Like any significant life change, there will be an adjustment period. Your pet may act out or become more clingy as they get used to new people and routines. Show patience and understanding—compassion is your best tool for helping them adjust.

• Celebrate the new norm: Once your pet has settled in, celebrate this new phase of life together! Consider a small 'family' photo shoot to commemorate your expanded family, or simply enjoy the everyday bliss of being surrounded by love, both human and animal.

Blending pets into married life doesn’t have to be scary. It's a manifestation of the love you and your partner (and dog or cat) share for each other.

2. How long does it usually take for pets to adjust to a new home or family members?

Navigating a new living situation with your soulful sidekick isn't always a walk in the park. Sometimes it's more like a cold 2am potty walk in the rain after realizing you've forgotten poop bags. Pets, much like people, need time to settle into their new digs.

On average, it might take a few weeks for them to start wagging their tails with the usual gusto in their new environment. But don't be surprised if it stretches out to a couple of months. Factors like your pet’s previous lifestyle, age, and even species can play a big role. Dogs might sprint through the adjustment phase, while cats could take their sweet time, cautiously examining every new nook and cranny before declaring it home.

So, give them space, keep the vibes calm, and let them explore at their own pace. Before you know it, they'll be ruling the roost, sprawled on the sofa like they own the place!

3. How long can it take for pets to get comfortable with new pet siblings?

If you’re adding a new pet to the mix, brace yourself for a range of reactions. Dogs might get waggy and playful within weeks, especially if introductions are done thoughtfully. Cats, on the other hand, might hiss and hide a bit longer, taking anywhere from a few weeks to several months to accept their new housemate.

The best way to induce harmony is to make sure each pet has their own safe space to retreat to and keep initial interactions short and sweet. Just like with humans, good relationships take time. Let them sniff out their new situation at their own pace.

Tandem and parellel walks through the neighborhood for dogs and neutral playtime for cats can help multiple pets slowly develop comfort and trust with one another. Be prepared to cut interactions short if they begin to sour. The more positive experiences they have together, the more likely you'll be to secure success. With a little luck and lots of treats, they’ll be buddies—or at least agreeable roommates—in no time!

However, if we're being realistic, two pets may never fully relax or cohabitate with each other, and that's okay! It's about going at their speed, keeping them comfortable, and learning to manage potential squabbles with gates, crates, and separate rooms, as long as needed.

4. What are signs of stress in pets to watch out for?

When your pet feels like they're on a never-ending roller coaster due to changes in their environment, their bodies talk before they do. Here’s what to watch for:

• Excessive grooming: If your cat or dog licks themselves into a furless frenzy, it's a red flag.

• Changes in appetite: Too much or too little interest in food can be a cry for help.

• Avoidance or hiding: When your buddy is more into solitude than socializing, especially if they're normally the outgoing type, it’s a sign they might be overwhelmed.

• Aggression: A typically chill pet that suddenly starts channeling their inner lion could be stressed.

• Accidents: If your house-trained pet starts forgetting their potty manners around the house, stress could be the culprit.

• Over-clinginess: When your shadow suddenly grows paws, it might be your pet feeling insecure.

Navigating pet behavior can feel like interpreting Morse code—especially when you're figuring out if they're stressed. Knowing the signs can help you act before a full-blown pet panic.

5. How can you balance attention between your spouse and your pet?

When you tie the knot, the dynamics of your household inevitably change, and if a pet is part of your family, it's crucial to maintain a balance in attention to keep both your spouse and your dog or cat feeling valued. Pets, much like people, can feel neglected if there’s a sudden shift in affection or routine. Here’s how you can ensure everyone feels the love:

• Schedule quality time: Just as date nights are vital for you and your spouse, set aside dedicated time to play or cuddle with your pet. This can help reinforce their sense of security and belonging.

• Involve your pet in activities: Whenever possible, include your pet in activities that you and your spouse enjoy. Whether it's a morning walk or a chill movie night, having your pet join can create shared experiences and enhance bonding.

• Communicate: Talk with your spouse about your pet’s needs and how you both can share responsibilities. This can prevent any feelings of resentment or neglect that might arise from unbalanced pet care duties.

• Monitor any behavioral changes: Keep an eye on your pet’s behavior as you adjust to your new married life. Signs of stress or anxiety might indicate they need more attention or reassurance from both of you.

• Education and training: Sometimes, it helps to revisit training—both for pets and pet parents. Consider a session or two with a professional to brush up on pet care techniques or to address any new behavioral challenges.

By integrating these strategies, you can smooth the transition into married life for everyone at home, making sure that your pet doesn’t feel left out of the new family equation.

6. What if one partner is less experienced with pets?

Merging lives also means blending experiences and backgrounds, which can be tricky if one partner isn't as pet-savvy as the other. But fear not, it's a fantastic opportunity for growth and bonding! Here are some steps to help both partners become confident pet parents:

• Education is key: Start with the basics. Share books, articles, or videos about pet care that are informative and easy to digest. Knowledge can make the less experienced partner feel more comfortable and competent.

• Attend pet training classes together: This is not just for the pet, but for both of you. It’s a great way to learn consistent commands and handling techniques, and it can also be a fun couple’s activity.

• Share responsibilities: Begin with simpler tasks like feeding or playing, and gradually work up to more involved duties like vet visits or grooming. This helps build confidence and ensures the pet care load is shared. Chore chart, anyone?

• Be patient and supportive: There will be a learning curve, and mistakes might happen. Encourage each other with positivity rather than criticism, which fosters a supportive atmosphere at home.

• Regular check-ins: Have open discussions about how you both feel things are going with pet care. This can help address any concerns early and adjust responsibilities or routines as needed.

By taking these steps, you not only help your partner become more adept at pet care, but you also strengthen your relationship through shared responsibilities and new experiences. Plus, your pet gets a well-rounded team looking after them!

7. Are there specific breeds of dogs or cats that are more sensitive to routine changes?

While we'd all love a go-with-the-flow pet who can withstand any change, some breeds are simply more sensitive to disruptions in routine than others. Cats, by nature, can be quite territorial and more sensitive to new surroundings than dogs. However, certain breeds of both canines and felines often exhibit a higher level of sensitivity:

Dogs

• Border Collies and Australian Shepherds: These highly intelligent and energetic herding dogs thrive on routine and can become anxious if their environment changes suddenly.

• Chihuahuas: Small but mighty, Chihuahuas can be very sensitive to changes in their living situation, showing stress through clingy or defensive behavior.

• Miniature Schnausers: While they may look like wise old grandfathers, Mini Schnauzers can be highly sensistive to strangers, unfamiliar situations, and loud noises. They may also have an increased risk of developing separation anxiety compared to other breeds.

Cats

• Siamese and Oriental Breeds: Very vocal and people-oriented, these cats might become stressed or act out when faced with changes in their environment.

• Persians: This breed appreciates a serene environment and can become anxious if their quiet space is disrupted.

• Russian Blues: Known for their shyness, these cats might retreat and hide more when introduced to new settings or routines.

Being aware of your pet’s breed-specific tendencies can help you prepare and support them through changes. Introducing changes gradually, maintaining a routine, and providing extra comfort and reassurance can ease the transition for these sensitive pets.

8. How can we handle behavioral issues that arise during the adjustment period, such as marking or excessive meowing?

Handling behavioral issues in dogs and cats during the adjustment period requires patience, understanding, and sometimes a bit of creativity. Here’s how you can address some common behaviors like marking or excessive meowing:

Dogs

• Routine rocks: Dogs thrive on routine. Keep feeding, walks, and playtime consistent to help them feel secure.

• Keep it positive: Reward calm behavior with treats and praise to reinforce good habits.

• Zen den: A crate or a quiet room with their bed can be a sanctuary for stressed dogs.

• Ask for help: If marking or other stress behaviors persist, consider consulting a behaviorist for more targeted training.

Cats

• Keep it fresh: Keep your cat stimulated with toys, new perches, and interactive play. This can help distract them from stressors.

• Soothing smells: Tools like Feliway diffusers emit pheromones that can help calm cats and are particularly useful for dealing with excessive meowing and marking.

• Cleanliness: Keep the litter box impeccably clean, as dirty boxes can exacerbate stress behaviors.

• 1:1 bonding time: Spend quiet time with your cat, brushing or simply sitting together. This can help soothe their nerves and strengthen your bond.

Addressing these behaviors ASAP (and gently) can help your pets adjust more smoothly to their new life with you. If all else fails, consult with a vet or behaviorist to explore other solutions.

9. What are some effective ways to bond with a pet that previously belonged only to one spouse?

Bonding with a pet that was previously the sole companion of one spouse can be a delightful journey, fostering trust and affection. Here are some universally effective strategies to help you become a cherished part of your pet’s life:

• Sharing is caring: Take turns feeding, grooming, and carrying out other care routines. Pets associate these activities with trust and security.

• Shared activities: Engage in activities that both the pet and you can enjoy together, such as playing with toys, going for walks, or simply chilling on the couch.

• Training sesh: Involve yourself in training sessions. This not only helps in setting boundaries but also strengthens communication between you and the pet. Use treats and praises to make the experience rewarding.

• Give them space: Allow the pet to come to you. Forcing interactions can lead to stress. Give them time to observe and approach you on their terms.

• Create new mems: Establish new traditions or routines that involve the pet and both spouses, like weekend hikes or a specific game.

• Patience is a virtue: Remember that all relationships take time to develop. Be patient and consistent in your efforts.

These approaches will help you form a deep, meaningful bond with your pet, making you an integral part of their world.

10. Can you recommend any specific types of toys or activities that help reduce stress in pets?

Reducing stress in pets, especially during transitions like moving or introducing them to new family members, can be crucial for their well-being. Here are some suggestions for toys and activities that can help alleviate anxiety and keep them engaged:

• Interactive toys: Puzzle feeders or treat-dispensing toys can keep pets mentally stimulated and focused.

• Comfort toys: Soft toys that can be cuddled or toys that mimic the heartbeat of another animal can provide comfort and reduce anxiety.

• Physical exercise: Regular play sessions using balls, lasers (for cats), or even simple fetch games can help expend energy and reduce stress.

• Relaxation exercises: Activities like gentle petting sessions, brushing, or even spending quiet time together can help calm nerves.

11. How should we handle the introduction of a pet to a new baby if we're planning to start a family soon?

Introducing a pet to a new baby involves careful planning and consideration to ensure safety and comfort for both the baby and the pet. In fact, this is entirely it's own topic. Here are some high-level tips:

• Slow and steady: Start by introducing the pet to the baby’s scent through clothing or blankets before the actual meeting.

• So close, so far: Initially, keep the pet on a leash during introductions and ensure they are calm. Allow the pet to observe the baby from a safe distance.

• Keep calm: Reinforce calm and non-intrusive behavior with treats and praises.

• Routine (notice a pattern?): Try to keep your dog or cat’s routine as regular as possible to avoid additional stress.

• Head on a swivel: Never leave the baby and the pet alone together, regardless of how trustworthy your soulful sidekick seems.

These strategies can help forge a harmonious relationship between your pet and your new baby, ensuring they grow up together as companions.

12. Are there any legal considerations we should be aware of when moving pets across state lines or internationally?

Moving pets across state lines or internationally can involve a variety of legal considerations, so it’s important to be well-prepared to ensure a smooth transition for your kitties or pups.

• Vet's stamp of approval: Most states and countries require a health certificate from a licensed veterinarian. This certificate typically confirms that your pet is free from infectious diseases and has received all necessary vaccinations.

• Vaccination passport: Check the vaccination requirements specific to your new location. Rabies vaccinations are commonly required, but additional vaccines may be necessary depending on the destination.

• Quarantine quarters: Some countries impose quarantine periods for incoming pets to prevent the spread of diseases. Familiarize yourself with these regulations to prepare your pet and yourself for any required isolation period.

• Permission slips: Some regions require an import permit for pets. This document usually needs to be arranged in advance and may require details of your pet’s health and vaccination records.

• ID Chips: Many states and countries require pets to be microchipped as a form of identification. Ensure your pet’s microchip is up to date with your current contact information.

• Flight rules: If traveling by air, familiarize yourself with the airline’s pet policies. These can include specific carrier dimensions, temperature restrictions, and costs.

• Breed bulletin: Some breeds, especially certain dog breeds, are restricted or banned in various states and countries. Check if your pet’s breed is allowed in your new location.

By being proactive and researching these legal requirements, you can ensure a less stressful relocation for you and your pet, adhering to all necessary legalities to avoid any woes that put a wrench in your newlywed bliss.

Nothing's better than love and pets

And there you have it, newlyweds—your essential guide to blending your fur-filled families into one harmonious pack. Whether you're merging states, introducing whiskered kids to human ones, or just trying to make sure everyone gets their favorite spot on the couch, remember: this is all part of your beautiful adventure together.

Embrace the chaos, laugh through the challenges, and keep those treats handy. Because when you navigate the bumps with a spirit of unity, even the most stubborn pets can’t resist the harmony of your newly combined digs. Turn that duo into a dynamo trio (or more)? With these tips, you’re crafting a sanctuary where every member—paws and all—feels the love!

Lizz Caputo is the Manager of Content Strategy at Figo, animal enthusiast, and owner of a rescued senior American Bully. Her hobbies include checking out new restaurants in her area, boxing, and petting dogs of all shapes and sizes.