Have you ever googled "am I a bad pet parent" at 2 AM while your dog snores contentedly next to you? If so, you're not alone. Pet parent guilt is real, and in our era of Instagram-perfect pet influencers, it's more prevalent than ever. But here's the truth: that guilt you're feeling? It probably means you're actually doing a pretty good job.

Why do we feel so much pet parent guilt?

Before we dive into specific concerns, let's talk about why this guilt is so common. We're living in an age where pet parenting has been elevated to an art form. Social media feeds are filled with perfectly groomed pups hiking scenic mountains, cats dining on home-cooked meals, and pets with bigger wardrobes than their humans. Add to this the constant stream of conflicting advice from trainers, vets, and well-meaning friends, and it's no wonder we're all left feeling a bit inadequate.

The reality? Most of this "perfect pet parenting" isn't realistic—or even necessary. Our pets don't need TikTok-worthy lives; they need consistency, love, and basic care. The fact that you're worried about being a good enough pet parent usually means you're already doing better than you think.

Pet parent guilt can stem from many sources, but some of the most common ones come from comparing ourselves to idealized versions of pet parent life we see on social media. We often develop unrealistic expectations about what "good" pet parenting should look like, particularly as our society increasingly humanizes pets and holds them to human standards.

Add to this the very real constraints of finances, time limitations in our busy lives, and the constant changes in our life circumstances that affect our pet care routines, and it's no wonder we sometimes feel overwhelmed.

Let's break down some of the most talked about sources of pet parent anxiety and why you can (mostly) stop worrying about them.

"I work full-time. Should I even have a dog?"

The short answer? Yes, you absolutely can have a dog while working full-time. The idea that good pet parents must be home 24/7 is not just unrealistic—it's a myth that needs to die.

Think about it: adult dogs naturally sleep 12-14 hours per day, with most of that happening during daylight hours. Your pup isn't sitting there watching the clock while you're gone; they're probably catching up on their Z's on your cozy couch—which, let's be honest, is a far better option than spending those same hours on the concrete floor of a shelter. The key isn't being home all day—it's making the most of the time you do have together.

What actually matters is establishing a consistent routine that works for both you and your pet. This means ensuring regular exercise before and after work, providing mental stimulation through puzzle toys and enrichment activities, maintaining proper house training, and having a solid backup plan for emergencies. These fundamentals are far more important than being home all day.

Still worried about getting separation anxiety from your canine companion? Why not open your home to a cat instead. While kitties still need ample love and attention, they're generally perfectly content with roaming the home solo while you're away.

"My dog is reactive. Did I cause it?"

Reactivity is one of the most misunderstood aspects of dog behavior, and it often comes with an extra helping of guilt. But here's what you need to know: reactivity is complex and can be influenced by genetics, early experiences (many of which may have happened before you even met your dog), and environmental factors.

Being reactive doesn't mean your dog is "bad," and it definitely doesn't mean you're a bad parent. In fact, managing a reactive dog often requires more dedication, patience, and love than handling an "easy" dog. What matters is that you're:

• Seeking appropriate professional help when needed

• Managing your dog's environment to reduce stress

• Working within your dog's comfort zone

• Advocating for your dog's needs

• Consulting with a vet if medication is needed

"My mental health makes me a bad dog parent"

Let's be clear: having mental health challenges doesn't make you a bad pet parent. In fact, the relationship between pets and mental health often goes both ways—they support us, and we support them. During tough mental health periods, focus on:

• Meeting your pet's basic needs (food, water, shelter, medical care)

• Maintaining a simple routine

• Finding low-energy ways to bond (cuddles count!)

• Asking for help when needed

• Remembering that your pet loves you unconditionally and doesn't judge

"I don't have the energy for long walks"

Not every dog needs marathon-length strolls, and not every form of exercise needs to be a walk. Quality often matters more than quantity. Consider:

• Interactive play sessions indoors

• Mental stimulation through training or puzzle toys

• Short, enriching "sniffari" walks where your dog can explore and sniff

• Alternative forms of exercise like fetch in a fenced area

• Adjusting exercise to your dog's age and energy level

• Hiring a dog walker if resources allow

If you have physical conditions that limit your ability to take your dog outside, or even if long strolls just aren't your thing, you may want to keep your lifestyle in consideration before getting a particular age or breed of dog.

For example, a senior pup might be more than happy to spend their days cuddling on the couch with you. Similarly, smaller breeds might find a lap around the living room to be stimulating enough.

"My dog doesn't have a yard"

A yard is a convenience, not a necessity. Many dogs with yards are under-exercised, while many dogs without yards get plenty of meaningful activity and enrichment. What matters is:

• Regular opportunities for exercise

• Scheduled potty breaks

• Mental stimulation

• Quality time with you

• Access to appropriate outdoor spaces, even if they're not private

Let's be real - if yards were a required pre-requisite for pet parenthood, our urban areas would be quite dog-empty.

"I have to crate my dog when I leave"

Using a crate appropriately is not cruel—it can actually be beneficial for your dog. When introduced properly, a crate becomes a safe space, not a prison. The key factors are:

• Proper crate training

• Appropriate duration

• Comfortable setup

• Safe space association

• Regular breaks and exercise

"My pet stresses me out, and sometimes I regret the anxiety they give me"

This is a normal feeling that many pet parents experience but few talk about. Having complicated feelings about your pet doesn't make you a bad parent—it makes you human. Consider:

• Identifying specific stress triggers and finding solutions

• Setting boundaries where appropriate

• Seeking support from other pet parents or professionals

• Taking breaks when needed

• Remembering that it's okay to not love every aspect of pet parenthood

Similar to parenting children, it doesn't serve anyone to gloss over the hard parts. Being real and realistic helps everyone, including our pets!

"I can't afford a life-saving treatment for my pet"

This is one of the most heartbreaking situations pet parents can face. Financial limitations don't reflect your worth as a pet parent or your love for your pet. Remember:

• There are often multiple treatment options at different price points

• Many vets will work with you on payment plans

• There are organizations that can help with veterinary costs

• Quality of life matters more than quantity

• Your worth as a pet parent isn't measured by your bank account

If you're facing the heartbreaking decision of financial euthanasia, give our guide a read. There are options out there.

"I need to medicate my pet for behavioral issues"

Using behavior medication doesn't mean you've failed—it means you're being a responsible pet parent by using all available tools to help your pet. Just like humans sometimes need medication for mental health, some pets do too. Consider:

• Medication can be a temporary or permanent support tool

• It often makes training more effective

• In some circumstances it can significantly improve quality of life for you and your pet

• It's often more humane than letting your pet struggle

• It's based on science, not laziness

"I had a baby and don't fawn over my pet like I used to"

Life changes, including having a baby, naturally shift our attention and routines. Your dog or cat doesn't need the same level of attention they always recieved—they just need consistency and to know they're still part of the family. Focus on:

• Maintaining basic routines

• Including your dog in family activities where possible

• Quality over quantity in interactions

• Ensuring basic needs are met

• Creating positive associations with the new family dynamic

• Hiring help like a dog walker or sitter if needed

"I got a puppy and am having regrets"

Uh-oh, you've got puppy blues! Puppy regret is incredibly common but rarely discussed. The early days of puppy parenthood can be overwhelming, exhausting, and nothing like the cute videos on social media. Having regrets doesn't make you a bad parent—it makes you human. Remember:

• This phase is temporary

• It's okay to not love every moment

• Feeling overwhelmed is normal

• Support systems are important

• Many "perfect" pet parents have felt the same way

The puppy blues are absolutely a real thing, but they're also manageable. You're learning to be a pet parent as you go and are trying your best! Remember, this is a phase, and with the right approach (and maybe some expert tips), you'll soon be an old pro. You've got this!

"Is my apartment too small for a large dog?"

The size of your space matters far less than what you do with it. Large dogs can thrive in apartments if their exercise and mental stimulation needs are met. In fact, many large breeds like Great Danes and Greyhounds are notorious couch potatoes who excel at apartment living.

Instead of focusing on square footage, ask yourself the questions that truly matter: Can you provide adequate exercise? Is your building genuinely pet-friendly? Do you have good access to outdoor spaces? Are you prepared for the day-to-day logistics of having a large dog in a smaller space?

These factors will have far more impact on your dog's quality of life than the size of your living room.

"I sometimes feed my pet store-bought treats instead of making organic ones"

Let's be real: your pet doesn't care if their treats came from a boutique pet bakery or the grocery store. My pittie's favorite snack is used chewing gum she finds on the street (against my protestations)!

While nutrition is important, a store-bought treat or kibble diet isn't going to harm your pet. What matters more is portion control, a balanced diet, and ensuring treats make up no more than 10% of their daily caloric intake.

"I feel guilty leaving my pet alone when I go out"

This is perhaps the most common source of pet parent guilt, but it's important to remember that having a social life doesn't make you a bad pet parent. In fact, a well-adjusted pet should be comfortable with some alone time. If you're worried, consider:

• Starting with short absences and gradually increasing duration

• Using pet cameras to check in

• Creating positive associations with your departure

• Setting up engaging activities for when you're gone

• TV and music can help provide background noise and may help your pup feel less alone

If your pet suffers from separation anxiety, take a look at our guide for more tips and tricks.

"I don't take my dog to the dog park"

The dog park isn't a requirement for good pet parenting. In fact, for many dogs, it can be overwhelming or stressful. What matters is that your pet gets appropriate exercise and socialization for their individual needs. This might mean:

• Neighborhood walks

• One-on-one playdates

• Training sessions

• Interactive games at home

"I sometimes lose my patience"

Welcome to being human. While it's important to remain calm with our pets, having moments of frustration doesn't make you a bad pet parent. What matters is:

• Recognizing when you need a break

• Having strategies to manage challenging behaviors

• Being consistent with training

• Making amends through positive interactions

Our pets are incredibly forgiving creatures, but if you find yourself frequently struggling with negative reactions or harsh responses to your pet's behavior, it's important to reach out for help.

This might mean working with a positive reinforcement trainer who can provide strategies for managing challenging behaviors or connecting with a mental health counselor who can help develop healthy coping skills for stress and frustration.

Remember, our pets depend on us entirely for their wellbeing and safety. Being honest with ourselves about our struggles and actively seeking support when needed isn't a sign of failure—it's one of the most responsible choices we can make as pet parents.

The bottom line

Good pet parenting isn't about being perfect—it's about providing love, care, and meeting your pet's basic needs while maintaining a balance with your own life. If you're worried about being a bad pet parent, chances are you're actually doing just fine. The very fact that you're concerned about your pet's wellbeing shows you're on the right track.

What matters most is providing regular meals, consistent veterinary care, age-appropriate exercise, genuine love and attention, basic training, and a safe environment. Everything else—organic treats, designer beds, professional photoshoots—is just extra. Your pet loves you not because you're perfect, but because you're their person. And that's enough.

Lizz Caputo is the Manager of Content Strategy at Figo, animal enthusiast, and owner of a rescued senior American Bully. Her hobbies include checking out new restaurants in her area, boxing, and petting dogs of all shapes and sizes.